When you become overwhelmed

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Life gets really busy. Sometimes it gets difficult to do everything. We all can manage to meet our deadlines at work, keep up with buying groceries, and other necessities that have to get done. Even when I am manically busy I still manage to eat. But what about the other stuff? The stuff I want to do, but never do.

Have you ever been to a family gathering, like a Christmas dinner and had a relative tell you to “make time” for the important things? How do you make time? That old saying if it is important you will find a way, if it is not you will find an excuse. I do not believe that is entirely being fair.

No matter how hard I try. There all this stuff that isn’t a necessity that doesn’t get done. Like visiting your grandparents or walking your dog. There are all things we have that make us feel guilty, like we aren’t doing enough. I have not had the time to drive 1 hour to visit my grandparents, so I am a bad person. This doesn’t seem to be a fair conclusion. Recently I have felt lazy. Like I am not doing enough. I should walk my dog more, I have should have lunch withhold friends. I recently finished my master’s degree and while I was in school I always had the excuse that I was in school and don’t have time. Now that I am done with school I feel like I have even less time. I don’t update my blog enough, I am not making art like I use to and I don’t walk my dog enough. Granted I love my dog and if I did have the time I would walk her three times a day. She is a 10 pound poodle so I don’t know if she would want to go on a long walk three times a day. But I still feel guilty. I know parents feel this way. I heard a report on NPR about how parents are spending more time with kids than ever before but the standards for good parents has gotten ridiculous. I believe life standards have gotten ridiculous.

I think we are all held to this standard that we should be doing more. That we aren’t being the best we can be. So I thought I would share with you the insights I have had over the last month of working two jobs, while starting an at home business, while enjoying being 25.

FIRST!

Let it go. No, not frozen style. Just forgive yourself. You are busy. Life can get crazy. It’s not you. Do not place blame on yourself. If you need a nap, take a nap. If you don’t do the dishes tonight, you can do them tomorrow. We set these artificial boundaries in our minds that only make us feel bad when we don’t achieve them. It is ok. You do not have to do everything according to this imaginary timeline.

I feel like there is this idea in our society that you must get married, buy a house, start a family, etc. Why? Why do we have to do all these things according to a prescribed timeline? We don’t have to do anything. You don’t even really figure out who you are until you are in your 30’s, slow down. It is not a race. We are all forging our own path and it’s going to be different for everyone.

Second!

Create healthy habits. What I mean, is to take a moment every day to take the time to do something that makes you happy. Every day when you get home talk to your dog for five minutes, pay attention to solely that dog for 5 minutes. That’s seems silly, but dogs biologically make you happy, and biologically make your dog happy. It is never really about the amount of something it’s the gusto behind it. If you don’t have a dog, do that to your cat or child. Or something else, call you mom every day. Take a walk with your partner. DO something every day that makes you smile and make a habit of it. This is important. You happiness is as important as eating and meeting deadlines.

Finally.

Work towards your goals. Do one small thing every day that contributes to your goals. Spend 5 minutes drawing. We forget to focus on ourselves when we get busy. We may get self absorbed or self centered, but when was the last time you gave yourself some quality time. Relationships need nurture and that cannot be truer than with yourself. Your relationship with yourself is critical, when that starts to fall apart, you start to feel that nagging worthless feeling, that won’t make you more time and it won’t make you happier.

I spent two months feeling sorry for myself. I neglected myself, I focused on the negative, and I gotta tell you, it did not help me find a job. It is easy to feel overwhelmed and far away from your goals. But remember to take a deep breath and keep breathing. Nothing happens overnight, success is purely the product of hard work. Keep going. Keep smiling. And keep trying.

<3 Thea

Toxic Relationships

What is friendship?

I am by no means an expert on friends. I don’t actually have a TON of friends, I have enough so I never feel lonely. But I don’t have so many friends that I can’t keep track of them all. We live in a strange world with Facebook because we can keep in touch with people we may never have cared to see again. Those people are our “friends” but they really aren’t’ I try to periodically delete people. If I notice someone I haven’t seen in person in years posting depressing quotes or profane sports junk or hateful political things, I may unfriend them. You should really try to keep your Facebook friends list to less than 100 people, seriously. We all have the extraneous family we want to keep in touch with. Or our kindergarten best friend, but your Facebook should be a tool to connect in real life, not an excuse to spy on people you half care about. Maybe that is just me. Your friends should be people you rely on, that you care about. I have a lot of good friends that come and go, and a circle of really close friends that I try to talk to every week. What got me thinking about friendship in general was a friendship that ended this week. I feel like friendship is a topic that we take for granted, we know it’s there. We assume it’s there, but its like pornography in that we never define it, we just know it when we see it. I recently ended a toxic relationship and it made me feel strange inside. I wanted to post about it.

Are you involved in a relationship that doesn’t do any good for you?

Sometimes we become friends out of necessity. Sometimes it is for convenience. If you see someone every day, sometimes you become friends out of habit. Have you ever seen friendships fall apart because you no longer work with that person, have class with that person, etc? Sometimes you realize you were never friends at all. This can be a hard process and simultaneously a freeing process. I am going to give you a very short yet detailed story of the death of my toxic relationship.

I was friends with a girl who married into my boyfriends family. We weren’t friends before the marriage really, we met because of the relationship. We honestly had nothing in common. She was super into makeup and name brand designer purses and clothes. She is gorgeous and has amazing hair all the time. And she was a clean freak. If you know me, I have only recently starting getting into makeup and I think name brand things are usually a rip off. Also I am pretty much a slob. (I really need to clean speaking of which…). We had hung out a bunch, mostly in the capacity of drinking on a double date. It was maybe like once month, I have a busy life, so I always have something going on. Everything seemed fine until they got engaged. She was marrying pretty much my boyfriends little brother ( well his cousin but they are basically brothers). I always felt like she was competing with me. This sounds crazy now, she never overtly did anything to make it seem like that but she always gave me this feeling with her words. She would make accusations with her comments like ” You guys aren’t in that serious of a relationship obviously, not like us.” because my boyfriend had not proposed to me we are somehow less real or serious? (for the record my boyfriend and I only started dating a couple of months after them, and we are ridiculously happy together, neither of us are in any rush to get married) or after the wedding “Someday you may become real family like me” because I wasn’t married in the family I am not a part of it? (again why do we have to be married, this is like some assumption in our society that I think simply leads to divorce, We are super happy, isn’t that enough?) This sounds so dumb now, but her words always hurt me. It was little slide remarks she would say, comparing how much better she was. She would sneak them into a conversation, like a cold knife in your back. Maybe I am too sensitive or maybe she wasn’t doing it on purpose. But every time we hung out I would be down about something that she had said. But the thing was she acted like a sweetie and would be so nice, and act like we were best friends. But the more I got to know her, I realized she was doing just that, acting. She would act like your best friend, with everyone. This should have been a red flag to me, I am the opposite of that, unless you prove yourself to me you are not my “bestie;” I always need solid actionable proof. She never gave me any to prove that she was a real friend, at least by my standards. I was a bridesmaid in the wedding, at first I thought it was to be nice because my boyfriend was one of the groomsmen, because I didn’t feel we were close enough to be at that point in our friendship for me to actually be in her wedding. But I realize now it’s because she has no girlfriends. Be wary of a girlfriend who has no friends. (Do not get me wrong, she would throw huge parties and lots of people would come, but those are the kind of people you only want to be with drunk.) The whole wedding was very nice and pretty, but a ton of drama with the maid of honor. I am still glad it’s over, it was such a stressful day. I cried so much. (This is a story for another day.) Time passed, I tried to distance myself from her, we hung out less and less. I would start to be more me when we would hang out, I got tired of keeping up the act of “bestie” and just be myself. But every time I wasn’t fake when we hang out, we would have a fight. The fights were pretty nasty and they made me feel awful. I think the last straw for me was my 25th birthday party when she tried to sell all my friends this pyramid scheme diet thing, and she spent the whole night fighting with her husband, complaining and pulling my dress down, like exposing my bra, in front of everyone. All my guests left early. I just cried, it was such an awful night. She called me later to say she was having problems with her husband, and ultimately after only a year of being married they filled for a divorce. I don’t know if there was cheating, she denies it, I don’t know. The divorce hasn’t been finalized and she is dating someone else, I don’t know. It’s still raw and sticky. And the public forum is not the place to dish on that…

Well I invite her to go to a Pilates class with me this week. It was all far from my house and my absolute favorite instructor was teaching it and I invite her. I didn’t want to go alone, I hadn’t taken a Pilates class before, I wanted to go with a friend. And I always want to give my girl Rita new students, because she is an amazing instructor, and honestly a great person. So I invite this girl. I think part of me wanted to make all the time I had spent with this girl prior to the divorce filling, worth it. Friendship takes a lot of effort. You put a lot of time into it. I think a part of me wanted to validate that our friendship wasn’t a fake act like it was starting to feel. Apparently a huge mistake inviting her, or maybe a good lesson. She insists I come to her house and in usual fashion she is on her phone the whole time seeming to ignore me, (pretty par for the course hanging out with her) we talk for a little bit and then the questions start. Since she told me about the divorce all she does is ask if the family asked about her. The family I am still connected to through my boyfriend, who is still very related to her soon to be Ex Husband. So she asks about Christmas. I have already dodged many of these questions from her, every time I see her she asks. Not just about her Ex Husband, about Aunts, cousins, etc. Did they ask about her? Did they miss her? Was it sad without her?

l very much love my boyfriends family. They have really taken me in, made me feel welcome. They have been involved in my life. I should write another post about them. Anyway I avoid these questions from her. Divorces can get ugly and people take sides. So I answer I don’t know, and change the subject. Well it turns into this huge fight. Like screaming. I am so uncomfortable at this point. What does she want me to say? The whole family fell apart without her, that everyone was miserable? She tells me how important she is, and how marriage is different than just dating. And again puts down my relationship with my boyfriend.. I say let’s not talk about this anymore, I am uncomfortable, so we go to Pilates, it seems fine. WRONG. I get a flood of texts the next day about how inconsiderate I am, how insensitive I am. How terrible of a friend I am and I should just tell her about the family because it is so hard on her. I try to apologize. I didn’t mean to make her feel bad, I just don’t want to be like an informant, or spy or messenger. She choose to end her marriage and let the marital ties dissolve, so she can’t end her marriage and keep his family through me. That isn’t fair to anyone. I ask her what this drama about, assuming that she has something else bothering her… and she calls me a bitch.

This may not seem like a big deal, but it all clicked into place for me. I would never insult one of my friends. Women in our society are constantly called names and put down, I don’t want to add anything to the trash pile. In all my fights I have never insulted a girlfriend. I think there is an assumption there, when you care about someone you never beat them down for convenience. I did an inventory of my relationship with this girl. What benefits were we giving each other. We took great selfies together? But thinking about it. We offered each other nothing. She doesn’t like who I am, and I don’t like who she is. She lives her live as though everyone orbits her. She is basically Regina George from Mean Girls, but without the friends. I do some soul searching. I talk to women I respect, My Boyfriends mom, my Pilates teacher, my friends… and I decide to shake the bad apple out of my tree. And rid my life of her. There are times when you have to shake your tree and rid yourself of bad apples, that is what My boyfriends mom told me. So I blocked her on all social media, deleted her number, erased the pictures of us from Facebook, my computer and phone. I don’t know if that seems brash. I don’t really care. I spent so long trying to make her happy. And she did nothing for me. Also I was hurting my boyfriends family by spending time with her. I may have inadvertently hurt my boyfriends cousin, who I care deeply about. Her calling me a bitch was totally the wake up I needed.

Friends are not obligations. Friends are not something you bully. Friends shouldn’t be obligated to give your life anything, but they should give you joy. This girl never gave me joy. She made me feel small, stupid, ugly, unimportant, and fat. Seriously. My boyfriend has been telling me this for months. He said every time I hang out with her, I come back sad and insecure. That is not what friendship is.

What makes someone a good friend?

I think about my best friends… Mia, Danielle, Heather , Clarissa… What do these women have in common? Actually not much. They are all so different, but the main thing is I can be myself around them. Friends fight obviously but they are there. And this toxic friend often accused me of not being there. and maybe I wasn’t so I try to think about it. Maybe I was just as terrible to this toxic girl as she was to me. This makes me sad. I don’t wish any harm to her. I just need to wash my life of toxins. I hope I am not toxic for anyone and they let me know if I am. I could be a better friend. I could be there more, what ever that means. I want to be there. It is hard we are all adults. We live different lives. We do different things. I hope I bring joy to my friends lives. I am so grateful to have them.

My boyfriend is obviously my ultimate friend. He is such a positive person in my life, he always reminds me I am special. And he is there for me in ways I didn’t know a person could be. He notices things that I don’t always notices. He catches the sadness at the corners of my mouth.

Mia has been a great friend, we actually knew each other in high school but weren’t friends. I borrowed her phone one day on the campus of our university and she asked me out to coffee, and I kind of fell in love with her. She has a kind of young Elizabeth Taylor personality about her. She seems like a movie star from the 50s. She has a sort of elegance to her I can’t really describe. She has a calming presence. She is glamorous and humble. But one thing she has done for me as a friend. Is she made me confront my bullshit. I have this habit of running away, of screaming blame on someone else. She made me confront my feelings and deal with things. We have had the entire roller coaster of experiences together. I lived with her for a while, and was a mess like I am. I borrowed so much money from her. She basically gave me my car. She really taught me how to be a lady. I have grown so much since we met, it’s fun watching each other grow up.

Danielle is like a rock. She doesn’t waiver. That sounds weird. But I mean her love can withstand all and move mountains. She is never fake. She is so honest and genuinely sweet. She is so smart too. She will build you up but wont bullshit you. I wish I had met her years ago. We have only been friends for two years but I feel like I have known her my whole life.

Heather was so hard to become friends with. I basically had to fight her. I stayed persistent though. and we will never not be friends. She has moved to another state but I still text her every day. I feel so connected with her. She is such a real person I have never met anyone like her. She is so resilient.

Clarissa and I were completely different people when we met. She is such a fighter. She has been through so much but she is so humble and will act like she is ordinary. She isn’t ordinary she is a fantastic person. She is so sweet and caring.

So from thinking about the qualities of my good friends, and thinking about the qualities in myself I would like to improve on I made a list of five things that can make you a better friend. Something I would like to work on in 2015.

 

5 ways you can be a better friend

#1 Listen

The number one thing you can do to be a better friend is actually listening to them. That sounds so cliché, but I think it is really important! We get so caught up in our own lives and worlds and sometimes don’t hear those around us. We get plugged into our electronics and don’t look people in the eye. Show genuine interest. Nod frequently for encouragement Smile. Small words like “yes” and “right” will show that you’re engaged in the conversation, that you’re listening, and that you wish for your friend to continue. Too often, instead of listening, we like to wait for our turn to speak. Anticipating what the other person is going to say or preparing a rebuttal before they’re finished speaking means that you’re not actually having a conversation, you’re waiting for your turn. Wait to formulate a response until it’s appropriate to make one.

#2 Ask

Simply asking how someone’s day is, can go a long way. People have stop asking “How are you?” When someone hasn’t been asked that in a while sometimes it’s really nice. Also don’t let the person say only, fine, good or ok, ask them about work, class whatever, make them tell you about how they are actually doing. It really shows you care. Ask about things your friends have told you about. Remind them that you have listened. If two weeks ago they told you about something ask about it. Also when you reach a pause in conversation, ask a question that clarifies a previous point or helps to dig deeper into the topic of conversation.

#3 Do the small stuff

Text your friends photos of stuff that remind you of them. For example one of my best friends Clarissa, she teaches elementary school and I found shoes that were pencils, so I sent her a picture of them! Reminding your friends you think about them is really important. I can’t tell you how much it brings me up when I am kind of having a bad day and I get a reminder from a friend even if it is a little hi, small things can make a big difference.

#4 Let them Rant

Often times our problems aren’t very large and we just want to complain. That can be such a therapeutic thing. don’t be down on your friend for wanting to be negative for a moment, often times that brief moment of negativity will lead to a more positive feeling after. no that’s not to say we should always be negative, I just mean when we have a bad experience sometimes it’s nice to let those negative feelings out. Listening is really the best thing you can go

#5 Be Honest.

If someone is really your friend all they want is honesty and they will appreciate who you are. You don’t want to be friends with someone who you don’t think is honest and you don’t want to be friends with someone who isn’t honestly being themselves. there’s an old Mark Twain quote that says something like, if you are always honest you will never have to remember anything. who wants to live that kind of life where they have to remember who they told what to. And the first step to becoming a better friend is being honest with yourself, if you aren’t truthful with yourself then what is the point?

 

Do you have your own ways you would like to improve as a friend?

 

Hot Yoga Advice

Have you ever tried Hot Yoga?

So the beginning of June, I tried to go to hot yoga everyday for a month. I had never been before and I thought it sounded like a good idea. I wasn’t completely successful. Some weeks I did better than others. I thought I would share some of the things I learned from the process.

1. Show up early. Plan to be to class at least 10 minuets before it starts. It helps me to clear my mind, to lie in the hot room 5 to 10 minuets before the class starts. Especially when I was attending a mid day class during a lunch break, its hard to quiet your mind and let yourself go and be in the moment when you are thinking about everything you have to do after.

2. Give yourself a break. Sometimes class will be such an enlightening experience, you will feel powerful and proud. But sometimes you wont be able to do a pose you  nailed the day before. Don’t be afraid to take breaks, sit down, drink some water. You are always perfect regardless of how your tree pose looks.

3. Learn the names of the poses and practice them at home. Yoga is practice. You will love some moves and hate others, but always make an effort to try. You will not always be perfect. But track your progress, a move you can’t do the first day, you will be able to do eventually. Yoga is about you, its not about how you look its about how you feel. mentally track how you feel during some poses and check in on yourself.

4. Invest in a good yoga towel and hand towel to whip your face. My boyfriend got me a good grippy yoga towel from Dick’s sporting goods, and its amazing. There are mixed emotions about wiping your sweat away. Some contend that you earned your sweat, why are you wiping it away, you should embrace it. For me however, I wear contacts and when sweat drips into my eyes it stings so bad. I try not to fidget as the say in poses, but back to my last remark, give yourself a break. Honestly you don’t need anything for yoga but yourself. If you don’t want to buy anything for class, don’t. any towel will do just fine, I like getting my towel wet before class so it sticks to your mat better, it will be sopping after class regardless.

5. Get in the habit of drinking lots of water. I lose about 3 pounds every time I do hot yoga because of how much I sweat. But you want to be sure you drink back all that water. Dehydration is no good. Your practice will be so much better if you are hydrated. The class itself will be more enjoyable. Drink water all day. Before class, during class, and after class.

6. Don’t worry about looking ridiculous. Everyone looks a little ridiculous doing yoga. Let go of that childish feeling of worrying about how you look. Get a seat where you have a good angle of yourself in the mirror (I don’t mean you have to sit in the front) but see the beauty in yourself during class. You are beautiful. you are human, all humans are beautiful. Love everything about your physical and mental being when you’re in class. Yoga is about self love. Love yourself fully, no apprehension, give yourself that 90 or 60 minuets to just love yourself unconditionally.

7. Got to class even when you don’t feel like it. When I had the pass unlimited yoga for 30 days, I was only able to go 25 of the days, but sometimes I didn’t feel like. I tried to push myself, because I knew  how I felt after class, even when the class itself wasn’t my best. You ALWAYS feel good after. Always. Do yourself a favor, don’t think about it it. Just show up. Just go. Only excuses are holding you back.

8. Get yoga clothes. Do NOT wear cotton. I have found that thin bike shorts and a full coverage sports bra is perfect for class. Honestly you could wear a swimsuit. You are going to sweat, sweat and sweat some more. The sweat never ends. You will smell, you might want to shower at the yoga studio, bring an extra towel. I have seen people do hot yoga in all kinds of attire. That’s awesome. Any yoga is better than no yoga.

9. Enjoy the heat. If you are nervous to do hot yoga, try a warm class first. But I love the heat. It lets you clear your mind, it made me nervous at first but its actually amazing. Try it before you swear it off. My boyfriends mom is super anti hot yoga because she believes its bad for you because of one story she heard where her friend pulled out her back or something. Let me just say. Yoga is not supposed to hurt. Yes its hard, yes it can be painful and physically challenging. But its not supposed to hurt you. if a pose hurts in a bad way DO NOT DO THAT POSE! I hear people say, “oh hot yoga, I know all these girls who did that and fainted” etc. Honestly I have never seen anyone faint. If you feel weak or see spots. sit down and bring your breath back slow and sip water. And if that doesn’t help you, step out of the room for a minuet. Yoga is about listening to your body. These anti yoga stories about people pulling muscles and fainting, are the side effects of not listening to your body. Yoga is for you, not anyone else.

10. Believe in yourself. Honestly I am not very good at yoga. I have seen steady progress in my balancing standing poses. but I still cannot do a full chaturanga (http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-6631/How-to-Do-Chaturanga-the-Right-Way.html). Believe in your practice even if you are not a pro the first day. even your teachers are still practicing.

I hope I have inspired you to try hot yoga. Its not for everyone but it can be a great addition to an exercise plan, and with those groupon and living social deals, its relatively inexpensive.

namaste!!!

Africa / Jungle Date Night

Jungle / Africa Date Night

 

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Do you want to spice things up with your honey? Try this date idea!

Part of the Traveling the world Date Series! I give you Africa. Now Africa is a huge continent obviously! So you may want to choose a specific place say South Africa for example.

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I even wore a cheetah print dress, and we played jungle music while we ate. I hung fun balloons from the ceiling. I use to be able to find animal print stuff everywhere, but I really had to search. I think this was a really popular children’s birthday party theme when I was a kid, maybe its not as popular now?

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I decided to just use the entire continent as inspiration because it was easier to plan food around that.

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Menu

-tomato and cucumber salad

-Shrimp kabobs

-veggie platter with homemade hummus

-rice

-chips and guacamole

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It was a huge hit! We had a lot of fun. I recently read the book called Dead Aid. It is written by a woman who grew up in Africa and it goes into the foreign aid dependence and the future of Africa.So interesting! It facilitated a fascinating discussion with my man.

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We also talked about Jungle animals because I got him little party favors, which he loves. So we talked about what it would be like to be in the jungle! Fun times!

Let me know if you do a Jungle date?

What do you want to do with your life?

Where do you want to be in ten years?

We all put this question on the back burner and I think it’s because it seems far enough removed from our immediate future to really care about it. It’s easy to be ambitious about our future selves, and give ourselves more credit than we probably deserve. I am graduating with my Masters in the fall and I have no job prospects. While this scares the crap out of me, I still have to finish writing my thesis, and at the moment that seems scarier.

What are you doing next year?

I am turning 25 in July. That isn’t old but its dawning on me now that I am not a teenager anymore. I can’t be “the student” for much longer, I have to be an adult. This got me thinking about where I want to go and what I want to do.
I am not trying to scare you, I am trying to motivate you. Today I had a wakeup call. I have been feeling extremely lazy and I have been neglecting this blog. Mostly because it’s clear my followers are all spammers or they don’t speak English and from their comments I can tell they don’t read my actual posts. But maybe if I put more of myself into my posts, you will read them?

My goals right now are
1. Finish this semester strong, with high grades
2. Finish my thesis by August
3. Update this blog at least 3 times a week
4. Work on my graphic design skills
5. Reevaluate what I want to be

I always thought I would have my own talk show by now. I am kind of a fitness junkie and I thought I could start my own gym. All I need is a certified personal trainer and a nutritionist and together the three of us could revolutionize fitness. I don’t think that my fantasies are just going to magically happen one day. I doubt I will get on TV or Nike will pay me to wear their clothes. But I also don’t think I should give up on myself or my dream. I look at the Bloglates girl and the Tone it Up girls and how much they have accomplished, but also how hard they have worked. I am still figuring out who I am and I am still young.
I want you to know that if you are out their struggling, or doubting yourself. You can do it. If you want to be a top chef, I believe you can be. If you want to work for NASA I think you can. All you need is a little hard work and luck. I believe in you. If you’re willing to work hard and to try, I believe you really can achieve anything. You just have to want it.

 

My 25 year goals are:
1. Run a Half Marathon
2. Finish my Thesis and graduate with my Masters
3. Find a job I care about
4. Start paying off my student Debt
5. Save money for my trip to Europe

I don’t know why we get down on ourselves or beat ourselves up. There is always room for improvement but you should never doubt your own self worth. Where will you be in ten years, is something we should all think about more. What do you want to do in 10 years? what can you do right now to make yourself better, happier, or more positive?

The real question is WHERE do you want to be in a year?
What are your goals?
How do you stay motivated?

Send me your two lists of 5, what you want to do this year, and what are your future goals?

Russian Date Night

With the Olympics gearing up, I thought it would be cute to have a Russian date night! This is apart of my “traveling the world” with you series. Basically you “travel” in your living room with your honey. My boyfriend is a full time law student, and I have two jobs and I am working on my masters, so its hard to find time to date (or the money). So with the Traveling the World in our living room dates, we pretend to be in another country together. This is a great way to spice up your dating at home life, and if you have kids, they can easily be incorporated into the date. Its really educational. Usually I will print out the countries flag and some facts about the country.

Photo: The colorful onion domes of St. Basil’s Cathedral

I like to surprise my boyfriend with these date nights, I will usually have them in the middle of the week, and I will come home early and decorate. He loves surprises, but if you honey doesn’t you can plan the dates together.

Spas na krovi, Saint Petersburg, Russia http://www.travelbrochures.org/208/europa/tour-to-russia

First you need to learn about the country your visiting. I started with Pinterest. I simply searched for “Russian Party” and surprisingly there are a ton of party ideas with the Matryoshka Russian Nesting Dolls. Its actually a really popular little girl birthday party theme. Who knew?! It’s adorable! You can purchase all sorts of printables. I just used google image search.

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Second you need to make a menu. I went to Cost Plus and purchased whatever Russian food they had. Here is some examples: pickles, mustard, & wine. I found myself not knowing much about Russian food, so I did a little research online. mustardpickles

There is this popular dish in Russia with Mushrooms, I followed the following Websites instructions, it was delicious, its called Mushrooms and Sour Cream

Mushrooms Sour Cream by Yelena Strokin, via Flickr

I also made this.

Russian Cucumber & Radish Salad | The Cook Who Knew Nothing

Honestly I kind of threw this date together last minuet so my decorations were lack luster. I used a tassel decoration I had used for a birthday party (the how to here) and simply taped pictures of the nesting dolls onto it. But I also included a basket of Russian things. A disclaimer though, don’t go over board with the Russian food. I bought a jar of green tomato salad and pickled squash. And now I have a lot of it in my fridge. It’s an interesting taste. It is a little to different for me.   image(12)

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I picked Russia because of the Olympics, but be on the look out for upcoming date nights apart of the Traveling the World in our living room, others I have planned include Ireland, Greece, Italy and Brazil.

Football Party

football

How to throw a good football party: good food and awesome decorations!

First:

Plan your menu.

How many people will be there?

What kind of food do you want to serve?

For my party I made bean dip, a veggie platter, pretzels and deviled eggs.

Don’t forget to have basketball and baseball parties to!

Whats your favorite dish for a sports game?

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awesome food ideas here!

Football decor #EsuranceFantasyTailgate

football decorations like these are really unique!

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Rosh Hashanah

Rosh Hashanah (in Hebrew)

According to Judaism 101, “Rosh Hashanah occurs on the first and second days of Tishri. In Hebrew, Rosh Hashanah means, literally, “head of the year” or “first of the year.” Rosh Hashanah is commonly known as the Jewish New Year. This name is somewhat deceptive, because there is little similarity between Rosh Hashanah, one of the holiest days of the year, and the American midnight drinking bash and daytime football game.”

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This holiday usually occurs in September.536840_217087705124039_2007891092_n

This year I made vegetable medley and couscous. I also served some other traditional Jewish food included a round braided Challah, pomegranate, and fish.

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I gave my boyfriend a gift basket with wine, honey and apples. the honey is to represent a sweet new year.

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I decorated the table with fall themes, to represent the new harvest.

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How should we celebrate Chanukah?

Thanksgivikah!

Thanksgivukkah

Back to what brought me here. I want you all to know its not to late to throw a Thanksgivukkah party.

http://www.pinterest.com/theamueh/thanksgivukkah/

Thankfully all the stuff is on sale now. I had a little party with some close friends. I went to Party City and got stuff on sale

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Here is a holiday menu:

http://noshon.it/blog/2013/11/thanksgivukkah-ideal-menu-mashup/

 

i wish you all cheer and mozel tov. xo

I hope you all are well. Spamers please leave me alone.